Hello curly humans 🙂
I’m fairly new to this blogging thing, if it wasn’t already obvious “:D I realised that there is a whole lotta information about my wash and goes, my preferred products, my kitchen sink- but alas, no results picture! #greatworkSean To correct this grievous error, attached to the bottom of this post is the best picture I could find that displayed the true definition I can get when the ‘fro feels like co-operating XD Now for le blog post 😀
I have been natural for around one year plus a few months now (see “Start!” post for more details :D) In that time I have realised that this is about so much more than hair! As fairly recent as this natural change may have been, my perspective has done a complete 180. Sure, long straight flip-it-over-the-shoulder-like-you’re-suppose-ta hair is gorgeous and there is no shame in admitting that. However, women (and men ;D) who do not fit into this mould, and were instead blessed with wild-and-free curls should not be made to feel like they should force themselves into it. I grew up in a culture that told me my curls were “untidy” and that not straightening my hair was “lazy” and looked “unattractive”- does that sound familiar fellow curly girls?
What is Africa to you? To all of us as South Africans, it is HOME. It is a place of colour and culture and freedom and acceptance. It’s where you come back after a long day, put on your baggiest sweats and veg out on the couch #nojudgement Yes, there are white Africans, black Africans, Indian Africans, coloured Africans- but in the end, we are simply all Africans. It should not be so that we place European features like aquiline noses and pin straight hair on a pedestal and marginalise African noses and coily ‘fros. We need to realise that Africans are just as beautiful as the rest of the world- we cannot wait for Kylie Jenner to wear a curly wig and then decide our natural texture is beautiful #gurlIsaidit
Looking back, it’s not the hair damage that scares me most now… it’s the fact that females were preaching a sermon of self-hate. The people most insistent about straightening were people with curly hair, some who had been straightening since before I was born XD Nineteen years of idolising straight hair and the accompanying European features glorified by media and society made me resent the African nose, the unruly hair, everything quintessentially unique about Africa in me.
Only a year of embracing myself, flat nose and all, has made me realise how much this seemingly vain thing –STRAIGHTENING MY HAIR- was just one part of a bigger problem. We cannot claim to support other women and men if we continue to think of curly hair as “lazy”, “unprofessional”,”unkempt”, etc. All that does is create one more generation of insecure and self-hating females who resent everything so wonderfully African about them. The change starts with us, with each female (& male :p) who decides to go back to their natural texture in order to go forward. I speak from experience, embracing natural hair has freed me from the trappings of society and has only brought amazing things into my life- except my wallet because hair products are expensive af XD All jokes aside, I know I can’t be the only one who has realised by now: It’s not just hair.
As promised, definition pic (plus one photobombing human, I really need to take more selfies alone “XD)