Just Hair?

Hello curly humans 🙂

I’m fairly new to this blogging thing, if it wasn’t already obvious “:D I realised that there is a whole lotta information about my wash and goes, my preferred products, my kitchen sink- but alas, no results picture! #greatworkSean To correct this grievous error, attached to the bottom of this post is the best picture I could find that displayed the true definition I can get when the ‘fro feels like co-operating XD Now for le blog post 😀

I have been natural for around one year plus a few months now (see “Start!” post for more details :D) In that time I have realised that this is about so much more than hair! As fairly recent as this natural change may have been, my perspective has done a complete 180. Sure, long straight flip-it-over-the-shoulder-like-you’re-suppose-ta hair is gorgeous and there is no shame in admitting that. However, women (and men ;D) who do not fit into this mould, and were instead blessed with wild-and-free curls should not be made to feel like they should force themselves into it. I grew up in a culture that told me my curls were “untidy” and that not straightening my hair was “lazy” and looked “unattractive”- does that sound familiar fellow curly girls?

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What is Africa to you? To all of us as South Africans, it is HOME. It is a place of colour and culture and freedom and acceptance. It’s where you come back after a long day, put on your baggiest sweats and veg out on the couch #nojudgement Yes, there are white Africans, black Africans, Indian Africans, coloured Africans- but in the end, we are simply all Africans. It should not be so that we place European features like aquiline noses and pin straight hair on a pedestal and marginalise African noses and coily ‘fros. We need to realise that Africans are just as beautiful as the rest of the world- we cannot wait for Kylie Jenner to wear a curly wig and then decide our natural texture is beautiful #gurlIsaidit

Looking back, it’s not the hair damage that scares me most now… it’s the fact that females were preaching a sermon of self-hate. The people most insistent about straightening were people with curly hair, some who had been straightening since before I was born XD Nineteen years of idolising straight hair and the accompanying European features glorified by media and society made me resent the African nose, the unruly hair, everything quintessentially unique about Africa in me.

Only a year of embracing myself, flat nose and all, has made me realise how much this seemingly vain thing –STRAIGHTENING MY HAIR- was just one part of a bigger problem. We cannot claim to support other women and men if we continue to think of curly hair as “lazy”, “unprofessional”,”unkempt”, etc. All that does is create one more generation of insecure and self-hating females who resent everything so wonderfully African about them. The change starts with us, with each female (& male :p) who decides to go back to their natural texture in order to go forward. I speak from experience, embracing natural hair has freed me from the trappings of society and has only brought amazing things into my life- except my wallet because hair products are expensive af XD All jokes aside, I know I can’t be the only one who has realised by now: It’s not just hair.

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As promised, definition pic (plus one photobombing human, I really need to take more selfies alone “XD)

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7 comments

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  2. Julia Duminy · May 29, 2016

    Hey. My name is Julia Duminy. Really really impressed with the blog, content, writing and our gorgeous hair! Well done on embracing who you truly are and working with what God gave you, with what you were born with. I have a story and hair journey of my own. Still to this day I rock my curly hair but still working on the confidence that goes with that #fakeittillyoumakeit. I love my curls, but didn’t always love them. I grew to love my hair as I began to truly love myself 🙂 My grandmother is still my ultimate critique though “Are you really going out like that?” “When are you going to get over this phase?”. I believe it’s a journey for everyone around you. Anyways, please keep on writing and I for one will definitely be following your journey. Maybe we could socially connect and share tips? Could use the help 🙂 Love a fellow SA curly girl 🙂 🙂 🙂

    • seangoesnatural · May 29, 2016

      Hi Julia 🙂

      Thank you so much for reading! The whole point of this blog is for us curly girls to support, motivate and connect with each other so I’m really glad you commented 🙂 God makes no mistakes 😉 And eventually people should start being more open-minded “:) The way we have been so brainwashed (for lack of a better term) by the media is crazy, it took forever for me to view my natural hair as beautiful! It really is a journey, and we need like-minded people for the support (and the hook up on the cheapest place for coconut oil XD)

      I would love to connect, I am on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/seantatum.moodley.73 🙂

      Thank you for all the kind words and don’t be shy to share your journey, I love hearing other curly girl stories 🙂

  3. successfulntsejoa · May 29, 2016

    Hi Sean- my friend and fellow self-loving African, you just made me wanna keep my dreads for ertenity. We need more blogs on issue like these. We need to work/shout harder and louder to tell the world God created us like the way we are and there is nothing wrong about our features. I am gonna wear my dreads with more pride girl.
    And just to let you know, I have always admired your curly hair…
    #naturalaaltheway.

    • seangoesnatural · May 29, 2016

      Ntsejoa I love your blog! We need to be proud of our heritage, and you are a great example of that 🙂

  4. BeeDuJour · May 29, 2016

    Natural hair is always best. Curly girls rock.